Message left on my Website

[BraveheartLadUK]

Hi Friends

Just wanted to say a "Big Thank You" to all those who've managed to visit my new website and also for the many positive and encouraging messages left on the message board. I'm delighted the website is helping others with CHD.

However, on a less positive note, I got home from Therapy today (being treated for severe depression at moment) and logged on and looked at my website and someone (don't know who they are), left the following message:

Hi Jonathon, I have looked at your website and some of your messages and I think you think too much about your heart and need to have other interests other than it, there are a lot of people out there that are worse off than you are. I think your website is very well designed but I really think you need to focus on other things than your heart because it seems to me that, that is all you have in your life. I think you should think yourself very lucky that you can still do lots of things that other people can't do. Regards, Jack Spencer

I don't even know this person. I DO consider myself lucky to be alive and yes there are plenty of people worse off than me. I don't disagree with that. I worked very hard at trying to make the website positive and hopefully inspirational to others. Now, I feel very down about it. I guess that's his opinion. But at a time when I'm already feeling very down, it kinda played on my mind today. I do have plenty of interests outside the circle of heart friends.

Anyway, sorry for going on... I just had to vent off.

Wish you all a VERY happy and healthy New Year!

Jonathan x

 

[Ross]

Hey Jonathon, don't let that get you down!

My sister in law is a person that would say something like that, therefor, it is my reflection that this person has not had heart problems and therefor, doesn't understand why we heart people do seem to dwell on them. You know what you've been through, I know what I've been through, but Mr. Spencer, I venture to say, probably has not had that privilege.

Don't let people tear you down with comments like that. For all the ones that are helped, you always have a few with other intentions.

 

[wlaldridge]

For sure, that is only one person's opinion.

You can vent all you want.

Information to us all is a good thing. Sorry for the depression. Keep smiling and things will get better.

 

[Nancy]

Hi Jonathan-

What a turkey that guy sounds like. Kiss him off! He's small potatoes in this large world. You are an inspiration to others and never forget it. Just cause he took the low road, doesn't mean you have to.

Take the high road and consider the source--Turkeyville.

You should just delete it and forget it.

 

[Johnny Stephens]

IT'S ALL GOOD

IT'S ALL GOOD

Jonathan, I guess I am at a loss for what Mr. Spencer may have been trying to get at. I, for one, found your sites to be very inspirational and were a huge help to me both before and after my own surgery. I hope you keep it up!

Hang in there, Jonathan!

Regards,
Johnny

 

[hensylee]

Hey, Johathan - we never heard of that guy and we hope we don't. We would hang 'im and you should, too. Must be someone who happened to find your site by accident and trying to cause trouble. You and I both know there are those types lurking out there and I am very surprised VR hasn't had at least one of them bust in here with something of that kind. Not to worry - it ain't nobody anybody knows, or cares about. So, just let him ride on off in the sunset without another thought about him - we know what you are doing and admire you so much for doing it. God bless - Ann

 

[carbomedic]

Must be someone who never climbed the mountain

Must be someone who never climbed the mountain

Jonathan

My advice, blow him off! Until someone walks in our shoes, they do not have a clue what the "mountain" means.

Hang loose, dude.

carbo

 

[Bob]

Trying to figure him out

Trying to figure him out

I have been sitting here trying to figure out what he was trying to say. I assume he meant to be helpful. Lets see, he responded to heart talk by suggesting you think of something else. Could he have picked up on your depression from the web site and how it grabs and circulates your thoughts around and around its core?. Depression does that as you know. It just hangs on to something and refuses to let it go. In therapy we try to break that cycle and enlarge your state of awareness. Maybe that was what he was trying to say. "Your web site is good,do more. Dont get stuck in a rut."
You and your thoughts don't cause depression. Most (90+%)depression is from chemical imbalance in the brain. The rest is from trauma. Some medications like Zoloft and Paxil work because they correct the chemical imbalance thus taking away the pain and gloom. We still have the thoughts but they don't hurt anymore.
I recommend you talk to your therapist about this and explore a connection regarding your heart, surgery, self and your future. It is just possible the combination of decreased heart function, surgery shock and chemical imbalance are all mixed together. It just may be that he was trying to help. Sorry if this is a bit disjointed as I am typing and thinking at the same time.

 

[mamsram]

agree with BOB

my thoughts--" I complained I had no shoes till I saw a man who had no feet", but, Damn these stones still hurt!

tough love?? brutal but caring ( is that what this is? )

MAYBE
This person has a difficult time expressing themselves and really meant to expand your horizons, by picking you up and pointing the way. ( he's never been there, but saw a map once).

I say smile, accept it as good intentions, and go on.

If you cant brush it aside, think of it in a positive way.

p.s. I liked your site--I visited-- hang in there

 

[Gisele]

That is just one person's opinion

That is just one person's opinion

so don't let it bother you. You know the saying "if you can't change something, change the way you think about it". You can't change this person's opinion so try not to let it bother you.
I think that Jack Spenser probably has never been ill a day in his life so until he is faced with any major illness and or surgery he couldn't conceive for a moment what it is really like.

By the way your web site was awesome! I really liked the format used. It was very user friendly and the fading effects were a nice touch.

Don't worry--be happy

 

[terry40]

BraveheartladUK

BraveheartladUK

I just quickly checked out your web-site, Don't you listen to that person, it's beautifully done, and should help out a lot of people going through the same or similar heart problems like yourself.

I not only have this support group, but one call young-at-heart which is organized through the hospital where I had my surgery.
They understand what your going through, you can vent , and ask for help, there's even seems to be a little humor which our family and extended family doesn't like.

I will go back when i have more time and check out the rest of your info, keep up the good work.

Terry40

 

[Lorraine]

Hi Jonathon,

I wouldn't give that person a second thought. It is unfortunate he happen to leave a post when you were already feeling down, but like Gisele quoted, "if you can't change something, change the way you think about it". I'm sure this person, unlike us, knows nothing about Heart Surgery! He probably came across your webpage, and thought it was somthing different than what it is.

I did check out your site and I think it is very informative and nicely done. You want to help others, which is being positive. I wouldn't give this character another thought. He obviously doesn't understand the first thing about what your talking about. We all go through stages from the time we find out we ned surgery and I think for the rest of our lives, because it has changed us. The thoughts we post at any given time, are the thoughts that are surounding us at that moment. Our thoughts do calm down, usually until something else happens. It's only human nature. I say, keep up the good work on your site! Keep Smiling!