l've been bumped and couldnt be more frustrated

[harrietW]

I must say that officially as of noonish today .. l feel most frustrated to find out that they are now very possibly pushing me into mid January! ! l seriously don't know if l should laugh or cry.
I have pre op administration Dec 8th so in preparing for that l called an spoke to my Surgeons assistant and what would of been approx the 20th of Dec or possibly over xmas now will most likely be mid January. On one hand l am very upset about this l have waited 2.5 yrs since l was told l need surgery then was put off waiting for my aortic valve to reach sever to prevent two OHS initial mitral valve severe regurgitation with stenosis and now both sever regurgitation with sever stenosis. So my Double Valve replacement just got bumped .. omg !!! I wanna cry l so wanted to have this surgery before yr end so l could start the New Year with this behind me and be on the mend ... sigh.
I have just spent the last 6 wks two mth in pre cardio rehab and respiratory rehab to have this news.
On the positive side there will be a couple of bypass redis in my sted.
I only then feel that someone somewhere maybe with a little family or someone's mother or father or someones son may have there life saved and have the best Christmas ever because they were lucky enough to get my tentitve dates.
God is great and l am blessed and my OHS with happen exactly when it is meant to all along.

I just can't handle the stress of it anymore. and l'm kind of sad. Because of it

 

[AZ Don]

Sorry you got bumped, I know how hard waiting is. Still, like you said it was probably a blessing for some other people. Best to focus on that side of it as much as possible. Soon your turn will come.

 

[harrietW]

Your right
Thank you AZ Don
I just keep thinking of my dad at 47 years old that left behind a 37 year old wife an 5 children two days before his schedule bypass 45 yrs ago . I was one of those children that grew up without my dad.
Someone out there is probably over joyed and full of gratitude and l pray for them things turn out better than it did for us.

 

[Paleowoman]

I'm sorry to hear you've been 'bumped' Harriet. To look on the positive side of it: Christmas is not the best time to be having this kind of surgery, nursing and medical staff are on holiday so there aren't so many around to care and cope if things go wrong. Plus there's no denying you will be in discomfort or downright pain afterwards for a while which would put the dampers on any feelings of celebrating. I had my surgery at the beginning of January two years ago and I made sure that the Christmas I had a couple of weeks before was the best Christmas.

 

[honeybunny]

Oh Harriet, am so sorry this has happened and brought you frustration and sadness. I agree with what Anne writes about not having surgery during the holidays, and your rationale about things working out for someone else is so unselfish. Please remember that I, and others, are holding you close in prayer. God bless.

Hugs,
Michele

 

[harrietW]

Awwe
Thank you Paleogirl and honeybunny Xx ❤
I woke up so Damn sad this morning and on the verge of tears. Ann l totally understand the short staff thing.
Thing is now since Sept they have told me mist likely the 20 -21 st that was Perfect for me. As l was in celebration myself.That was my gift My Christmas miracle Perfect for me in every way. I have literally had my bag packed since Mid August because l sometimes actually most of the time wonder if l am even going to wakeup or be here tomorrow. I am actually sometimes very surprised to wake up more often than not. I have managed to keep my upper respiratory infection at bay and my heart is acting up more and more every single day. My heart stops at night about on average 9 times per night thank God for CPAP the stress level continues to increase. Which is so bad and chest pain and numbness seems to be showing up daily. My blood pressure is now increasing where for the past 5 yrs has been rediculously low. And quite frankly l am so tired of feeling like **** all the time. Sighhhh !!!
There l officially feel better for Ranting !! I live alone no one to bounce things off of. Thank God for this site.

I will be fine just feels like someone punched me in the stomach and l am very disappointed. Again on the upside someone in worse condition actually a couple of people in worse condition will get there Christmas Miracle.
I will just look at it like my January Mexican Vaca instead of my Christmas in Disney Land. Hahaha! Now l guess on with my day. Brush off and go lash a few ladies ! And be grateful for another day ! Xx See l feel much better now. Thx u ❤

 

[Paleowoman]

Hi Harriet - just going to add that you must let them know your state of health and how your heart stops. let your GP know plus the cardiac team !

A neighbour of ours is due to have a valve replaced and he too was bumped the day he got into hospital for surgery. When I met him and he explained that to me he was so out of breath just standing and talking to me I couldn't believe they had bumped him !

 

[Superman]

Does your health insurance coverage change between now and the new surgery date? Will the surgical office or hospital be picking up the difference in the out of pocket expense created by moving the date? I'm sure their rates aren't going down between the original scheduled date and the new fiscal year for them. Guessing you met your deductible this year already (assuming you're in the U.S.). Could you imagine if a persons employer forced a switch to a high deductible HSA after a surgery like this got bumped into a new plan year? That would be awful.

I'm a numbers guy. Outside of the medical anxiety - this is the type of thing that bothers me.

 

[harrietW]

I know paleogirl it's rediculous. .
I actually had the conversation with the surgeon on Sept 22nd . He asked me how many pillow l use l said about 4-6 lol but don't actually sleep on my back but rather my side he asked what happens when l lie on my back . I told him my heart stops and l feel like l'm drowning. He look shock and surprised.

 

[harrietW]

I see my GP on the 3rd

 

[harrietW]

Superman
Thank God l live in Canada Alberta more spacifical! We thankfully don't have those worries. If l did l couldn't begin to imagine what kind of mess l would be in.
I am very blessed that way. We have free medical. . So blessed.