It is always surprising to me who is helpful in a crisis.
I have known that I needed OHS since the end of last august. I fly to Boston next sunday. I am single so I have to take care of everything. Mom and dad live 3 hours away and can't help much due to age and health status. Since for the most part I will not be able to the summer yard work or house maintainance for 3 months I need everything done before hand. So I have been painting, cleaning out cutters and down spouts, and trimming bushes. I also have made multiple casseroles to divide so I don't have to cook after if I don't have the energy. I also had to go shopping for clothes. I didn't have that many street clothes since I wear scrubs for a living. I also bought an Apple Macbook as a present to myself since I had to have surgery. I also just had the oil changed in my car and my car washed.
Who is not helping me much is the church I have been visiting and friends. Though one friend whose husband volunteered them is going to drive me to Atlanta so I can get a direct flight to Boston. Also the local docs have been pretty useless getting the rest of my body ready for surgery. I am going to call my pulmonary doc again tomorrow to see if he can get my asthma more under control before surgery. If past history stands, it will be a wasted call. I plan on changing docs after surgery. There is not enough time to change again before surgery. And as expected I have not heard anything from one sister that lives 3 hours away. She is always to busy with her family and her volunteer work. (I thought charity begins at home.) BTW, she lives 45 minutes from mom and dad and does very little to help them.
There are people helping more than I thought. One of my sisters who lives 400 miles away is going to close her physician practice to be with me for 2 weeks after surgery. Also when she drove down to see mom and dad after Christmas she also drove over to see me and helped me pick out clothes that I needed as my Christmas present. One of my step-sons and his wife have also been very supportive. My neighbor that I don't know very well is keeping my mail while I am gone and will give me a ride to the grocery store until I can drive.
Debbie
I have known that I needed OHS since the end of last august. I fly to Boston next sunday. I am single so I have to take care of everything. Mom and dad live 3 hours away and can't help much due to age and health status. Since for the most part I will not be able to the summer yard work or house maintainance for 3 months I need everything done before hand. So I have been painting, cleaning out cutters and down spouts, and trimming bushes. I also have made multiple casseroles to divide so I don't have to cook after if I don't have the energy. I also had to go shopping for clothes. I didn't have that many street clothes since I wear scrubs for a living. I also bought an Apple Macbook as a present to myself since I had to have surgery. I also just had the oil changed in my car and my car washed.
Who is not helping me much is the church I have been visiting and friends. Though one friend whose husband volunteered them is going to drive me to Atlanta so I can get a direct flight to Boston. Also the local docs have been pretty useless getting the rest of my body ready for surgery. I am going to call my pulmonary doc again tomorrow to see if he can get my asthma more under control before surgery. If past history stands, it will be a wasted call. I plan on changing docs after surgery. There is not enough time to change again before surgery. And as expected I have not heard anything from one sister that lives 3 hours away. She is always to busy with her family and her volunteer work. (I thought charity begins at home.) BTW, she lives 45 minutes from mom and dad and does very little to help them.
There are people helping more than I thought. One of my sisters who lives 400 miles away is going to close her physician practice to be with me for 2 weeks after surgery. Also when she drove down to see mom and dad after Christmas she also drove over to see me and helped me pick out clothes that I needed as my Christmas present. One of my step-sons and his wife have also been very supportive. My neighbor that I don't know very well is keeping my mail while I am gone and will give me a ride to the grocery store until I can drive.
Debbie
It's sounds like you have many things in order, ready for the big day of surgery Debbie! All this will help you feel better when the time comes, for sure. Ross's right too, like your sis will be there to help you. I only needed help the first week, then I felt good enough to do more myself. But it was all God, as I had no one to care for me after surgery either, then my friend from Hawaii came to town! She stayed with me, cooked, cleaned, did my meds, everything! Amazing.
