Hello, Beverly. Welcome to our home away from home! I'm glad that you have already found some comfort here. Come as often as you can!!
I am 52 and just had my first AVR last April. (Because I chose a tissue valve with a shorter lifespan than a mechanical....I will probably have to fact a second surgery in 20 years or less). I had to to wait almost 3 years for it to get "bad enough" for surgery. The waiting is very tough. I'm so sorry that you had a difficult time with your first surgery. That would make anyone anxious about a second one, even though 10 years have passed.
I guess I would want to assure you that things have been perfected to a degree in that time. Perhaps the actual surgery will go faster than the first. Perhaps the drugs will be more effective now, to curb the discomfort and keep you balanced during recovery.
Specifically, what went wrong with the first one that kept you in the hospital for so long? Are you going to a more state of the art hospital this time?
There are many here who can address different complications...but we don't know what they are, so maybe you could describe some for us.
Good luck and hang in there. We'll be here waiting for you to report back after your surgery...so you can be reassured that there are many ears and hearts here, listening.
Marguerite