All of a sudden, I am totally freaking out about leaving my daughter tomorrow to head over to the town where the hospital is. I will be staying there tomorrow night because I have to be at the hospital by 5:30 am on Tuesday. I'm still very confident about the surgery, but can't imagine walking away from her. I would be panicky if I was leaving her to go on vacation for a few days, so imagining leaving her for this is throwing me WAY off balance. Even when I get back home with her, things will have to be so different for awhile. I don't know that there is even a question in this post, just needed to vent to others who "get it"! I'm trying to remember that I'm doing this to have more time with her in the long run, but it doesn't make it any easier to walk away...
Freaking out...
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Boston Tiger
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Mama bears have a real tough time stepping away from their baby bears, whether those baby bears are 3 or 18 or 27. Heading off to the hospital while trying to keep your daughter from catching onto your nerves will probably be the toughest part for you. There's not much I can say to help you here, but that's just going to make your homecoming that much more rewarding. Because you will know then know that you will be around for her for a long time. Good luck as you head in. The hard part's almost over, and you'll be better than before in no time at all.
Thanks. I think I might be backwards from those who get more calm as it gets close. I think I was pretty laid back during most of the wait, and now that I'm closing in on it, I fell like I can barely breathe! Probably will get better again after I get through the "goodbyes" with the little one...at least I hope it does!
ElectLive
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Tucking my 2 1/2 year old daughter into bed the night before surgery was definitely the hardest experience of my life, but guess what, seeing her smiling face 24 hours later (after the surgery) was also the most enjoyable experience of my life. I put some thought into the goodbye beforehand, and knowing the importance of her memory of it, found the determination to pretty well hold it together, much more than I thought I would be able to. I did fall apart after leaving her room that night, but shortly thereafter, a calm returned and I walked into the hospital the next morning completely at peace and with a smile on my face.
The great thing about young kids is that they bring fun to every experience you share. You might worry about all the changes, but my daughter grew immeasurably during the process, wanting to help in whatever way she could. I couldn't think of a better recovery companion than a young daughter.
The great thing about young kids is that they bring fun to every experience you share. You might worry about all the changes, but my daughter grew immeasurably during the process, wanting to help in whatever way she could. I couldn't think of a better recovery companion than a young daughter.
selma
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Oooh, that would be a tough one. I get kind of teary thinking of saying goodbye to my partner before the surgery -- can't even imagine how difficult it would be to say goodbye to my child. If I've learned anything here, it's that everything you're feeling is normal under the circumstances -- this is the tough part, and in a few days, you'll be on the other side. Vent away!
