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My husband just had AVR and ascending aorta replacement (mechanical St. Jude/Dacron) three weeks ago. We have had several problems (which I know everyone does) such as med allergies, vomiting, dehydration, atrial fibrillation (back to the hospital AGAIN) and now he is feeling very depressed all of the time. He is also experiencing a LOT of shoulder pain. His appetite is DECREASING as time goes ( I mean compared to post-op appetite) by and he is growing more and more depressed. I understand that this was MAJOR surgery and he is going to feel depressed for many reasons but is there ANYTHING I can do to make it easier for him. I already try to have him do all that he physically CAN do to make him feel useful and I have taken off of work indefintely to care for him--so I am here 24/7 but he has NEVER been depressed before in his life so I dont know what to do........
Note: We are both 28--have been together since college and have never had a health problem. I made him go to the Dr for a migraine episode--they detected a heart murmur and shortness of breath--cardio referral--another cardio referral and 3 days later we were at Johns Hopkins and he was having open surgery. There was a total of 5 days in between his diagnosis and surgery. His valve opening was 6.5 cm and he was diagnosed with Marfans Syndrome at the same time. I have become a Marfans nerd and have learned that his condition should have been diagnosed at birth. He was born with Pectus Excavatum (that required surgery at three) and exhibits almost every characteristic of Marfans (tall, disproportionately long limbs, arched roof of mouth, long toes, mild scoliosis...........)
I have asked him if it would help for me to leave him alone but he is adamant that he does NOT want me to return to work and that it makes it better that I am there. Our surgeon told me that typically younger patients have a longer post-op recovery and that since this is his second sternotomy he is going to take longer to heal. I know I am rambling but I dont have anyone else that understands these procedures and what a toll they take on the patient so I needed to vent to people who I am positive understand. I found your site two days prior to his surgery (I am an insomniac when there is a problem) and it helped me PROFOUNDLY prepare for what was going to be done. In particular his awakening in ICU with the dreaded intubation tube--I asked that I be there when he awoke and he (as you all said) freaked out but I calmed him down by explaining to him where he was and that I was there with him and why he had tube in his throat. His CICU nurses were GREAT--they let me stay WAY longer than I was supposed to and they were not threatened when I asked lots of detailed questions..... and I slept in his cardiac chair in the step-down unit for all 6 nights he was there. Cannot say enough about how nice Johns Hopkins is
If anyone has any advice after reading my novel of a post....I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you for listening.
Note: We are both 28--have been together since college and have never had a health problem. I made him go to the Dr for a migraine episode--they detected a heart murmur and shortness of breath--cardio referral--another cardio referral and 3 days later we were at Johns Hopkins and he was having open surgery. There was a total of 5 days in between his diagnosis and surgery. His valve opening was 6.5 cm and he was diagnosed with Marfans Syndrome at the same time. I have become a Marfans nerd and have learned that his condition should have been diagnosed at birth. He was born with Pectus Excavatum (that required surgery at three) and exhibits almost every characteristic of Marfans (tall, disproportionately long limbs, arched roof of mouth, long toes, mild scoliosis...........)
I have asked him if it would help for me to leave him alone but he is adamant that he does NOT want me to return to work and that it makes it better that I am there. Our surgeon told me that typically younger patients have a longer post-op recovery and that since this is his second sternotomy he is going to take longer to heal. I know I am rambling but I dont have anyone else that understands these procedures and what a toll they take on the patient so I needed to vent to people who I am positive understand. I found your site two days prior to his surgery (I am an insomniac when there is a problem) and it helped me PROFOUNDLY prepare for what was going to be done. In particular his awakening in ICU with the dreaded intubation tube--I asked that I be there when he awoke and he (as you all said) freaked out but I calmed him down by explaining to him where he was and that I was there with him and why he had tube in his throat. His CICU nurses were GREAT--they let me stay WAY longer than I was supposed to and they were not threatened when I asked lots of detailed questions..... and I slept in his cardiac chair in the step-down unit for all 6 nights he was there. Cannot say enough about how nice Johns Hopkins is
If anyone has any advice after reading my novel of a post....I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you for listening.