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[PathFinder]

Isn't it funny? I'm young, strong, nice and popular. What may anybody wants from the life? But do I have to be happy? How, when I know, that one day my life will be full of risks! I have a perfect health, no geneticaly prone to any serious illnesses and there are no relatives, who are associated with BAVs (from all the family in the near generations, incl. gronmothers and grandfathers)!!!
No other aortic issues yet (my Aorta Ascendenta is even tighter - from 33mm to 32mm), no mitral regurgitation already (was 0+, now 0), still no basic symptoms... My cardio told me, that with my health my life expectancies are only sligtly smaller than the general population (becouse of the great risks of the prosthetic valves to bring trombs) and nothing more bad yet! Congenitaly deffects may also be associated with deffects of the heart muscle, but at the physical tests - no signs of any abnormalities...
But there is something, that I have never tought about - my children. Like i wrote, there are no known relatives with any heart issues in my family, but BAV is geneticaly desease and I'm more afraid about my future generations. Even if my childs are "clear", their childs will be definetly hit! Is it fair?

 

[1tree1975]

BAV is not always genetic....it is unknown, the causes of heart defects. There are many thoughts as to why but not officially. I am confused by your post..do you have BAV? "I have a perfect health, no geneticaly prone to any serious illnesses"
Theresa

 

[1tree1975]

scratch that....your profile reads that you do have BAV.

Theresa

 

[PathFinder]

Yes, I'm bicuspid with regurgitation level 3. I mean, that I'm otherwise healthy

 

[Phyllis]

As all of us know, there are no guarantees in life. That's all the more reason to take each day and enjoy it and don't worry about the future. Not sure if you have children yet or are just thinking of the future, but this is definitely not a reason to deny yourself the joy of raising a family.

 

[Karlynn]

We didn't find out until after my mitral valve prolapse w/ regurg was dx'd that my mother had it and my sister has it. My son was checked out a few years ago when he was having problems with un-dx'd asthma that his mitral valve is "buckled". I'm taking my daughter in to my cardio at the beginning of March to get checked out. She's not having any symptoms but she's tall and thin and a friend of hers in med school keeps telling her she has several Marfan's traits. She's worried - I'm not.

No one wants to see their loved ones having to struggle. Being a parent of a struggling child (no matter what age) is the hardest thing IMHO. But I will also say that I know people who lead charmed lives. They have never known hardships of any kind. Golden gifts just seem to drop in their laps. The family I'm thinking of in particular, is so "charmed" that they really expect to have everything go wonderfully. And they are the first to complain and rail at God when things don't. I'm not even talking about big things. One example was having to sell their boat for only $500 more (yes, I said 'more') than they paid for it. You'd think they'd had it reposessed. I pray for them because I think if they ever have to deal with anything that is truly difficult, they will crumple.

I do think that we are blessed. We have to follow a little harder road in life, but we have an appreciation for the things that those who are "charmed" take for granted.

 

[geebee]

I would hate to think my mom might have thought about not having children because she was worried about us having valve problems (although my mitral valve problems are not genetic). As we all know, our problems are correctable and most of us go through surgery(ies) without long term issues. Even those of us with post-surgical issues such as a-fib would still say we are happy to be on this earth despite them.

Live your life to the fullest, have your family if that is what you desire. Love will conquer everything else.