About VR arguments

[Mary]

When I open VR and I see that New Posts are showing a large increase in replies to a thread that looked possibly contentious when I last viewed it, I am always a little dismayed.

Monday through Friday, we have members headed to surgery. If we would channel the excess energy expended in a heated thread towards offering a supportive post to these members, I believe we would more likely achieve what Hank intended when he created VR.com

 

[WayneGM]

Hear hear.....(applauding loudly).

 

[Phyllis]

I second that, Mary!!

 

[Superbob]

As usual (except when she is getting after me for Throw Down weight issues), The Ref has displayed a cool head and great wisdom.

 

[skeptic49]

I'm with you, Mary. While I enjoy a good conversational dust up as much as anyone, I don't think this is the place for it.

Jim

 

[Mary]

I'm with you, Mary. While I enjoy a good conversational dust up as much as anyone, I don't think this is the place for it.

Jim

Jim,
I would like to see equal time given to members going into surgery and post recovery.

I don't mind the dust ups as long as they don't overshadow Hank's primary goal of support and information.

Maybe controversial subjects should be started on nonsurgery days?
Or if you post to a heated subject, you take time to post well wishes to members headed to surgery? You know . . . kind of a one on one type of deal.

 

[Cooker]

Thanks Mary .... I posted yesterday to that "now closed" thread that there were 4 people that could care less about the crap being spread on that thread and was ignored .... Lets remember why we are here.

 

[skeptic49]

Jim,
Or if you post to a heated subject, you take time to post well wishes to members headed to surgery? You know . . . kind of a one on one type of deal.

I too think that it's important to post supportive messages to those heading to surgery or who are facing tough issues. I have other venues where I can post on controversial subjects and so I prefer not to do it here. However, perhaps this forum is the only outlet for some members to express themselves forcefully so I guess as long as there is a balance and no one actually gets killed we'll be OK.

Cheers,

Jim

 

[Mary]

Thanks Mary .... I posted yesterday to that "now closed" thread that there were 4 people that could care less about the crap being spread on that thread and was ignored .... Lets remember why we are here.

I read that, and I meant to reply to your post.
You were absolutely correct!.

 

[Rich]

Mary,
You said exactly what I was thinking.
Right on!!!
Rich

 

[BDMc]

Thanks Mary! Another thing folks could do out of respect for our community as a whole, is use PMs for arguments if they feel they can't let it go. I used to react to controversial posts. Now I PM the person I agree with to offer my support, but I don't encourage the argument. I try to avoid the controversial threads. It is a little like watching your step on a sidewalk. And more importantly, as you said, I find it is a misdirection of my energy. Purpose and direction are the priorities. Thanks for the reminder! Your valve brother, Brian

 

[skeptic49]

Thanks I PM the person I agree with to offer my support, but I don't encourage the argument.

Good idea! Thanks, Brian!

Jim

 

[Wise]

Thanks Mary! Another thing folks could do out of respect for our community as a whole, is use PMs for arguments if they feel they can't let it go. I used to react to controversial posts. Now I PM the person I agree with to offer my support, but I don't encourage the argument. I try to avoid the controversial threads. It is a little like watching your step on a sidewalk. And more importantly, as you said, I find it is a misdirection of my energy. Purpose and direction are the priorities. Thanks for the reminder! Your valve brother, Brian

Brian, I am going to take your admirable approach. I am totally against intentionally posted threads of controversy. Some love that stuff; I don't. I however don't feel that I am right and they are wrong, just different. I'm turning a new leaf and refuse to post at all on threads I deem to be fishing for reactions. I do hope that vr.com doesn't become a welcome home for political debate, but if it does I'm steering clear.

 

[BDMc]

Jim, Thanks for being a part of our community! Wise, your name says it all! Your valve bro, Brian